We’ve all had times where we are shopping or sitting in our car and an old song comes on the radio that triggers memories from our past. Those songs can bring out intense, old feelings of happiness or sadness we once felt during that time of our life.
Much like music, our physical belongings can also serve as emotional memory anchors.
Moving on and moving out is never an easy task during a divorce. Moving can be stressful enough without having to divide your belongings and having every item you pack be a reminder of the good and bad times you once had in the home.
Packing under these conditions often requires careful and deliberate steps to make the process a little easier.
For some, getting rid of the constant reminders and starting fresh is the best way to move on. For others, these life changes can cause excess emotional trauma. It is important to do what you feel is best for you emotionally.
Dividing and Conquering. If you are moving out, make sure you pack only the items that are yours and yours alone. Those items which are shared equally need to be discussed and agreed upon. If possible, make a list of the items you want to take with you that were once shared and have your spouse or partner agree to the list.
You should also consider putting items you are unsure you want to keep or even disputed items in storage until things have settled.
Asking for Help. Having friends around you during a separation or divorce can make it easier. Not only will they give you support, but they can help you sort through your belongings. For families going through tough times, hiring movers to pack and load their items can make the moving out process a lot easier and less traumatizing for all parties involved.
Friends and family will be important even after the move. Keep in touch with your support system so that you don’t drift or feel lonely. Check out your new surroundings, find new places to go out to eat and hang out, and join a local gym to keep you feeling good both inside and out.
Both divorce and moving are stressful life events, together, they are even harder. Taking things step-by-step can help you through it with more ease.